Wedding Style Guide: What to Wear if You're the Mother of the Bride or Groom

Mothers of the bride and groom! 

It's your big day too! 

As the mother of the bride or groom, figuring out what to wear can be incredibly overwhelming. But our stylists have you covered! Find your perfect outfit with our style guide for the mother of the bride or groom.

Adriana is wearing the Lisa navy lace dress and Terri is wearing the Elizabeth sequin lace floor length dress, available for purchase starting March 1, 2022. 

Mother of the bride or groom attire etiquette is constantly evolving. In the past, mother of the bride or groom dresses had a reputation for being matronly or overly conservative — but that's hardly the case anymore. (Psst: The same goes for the grandmother of the bride or groom dresses too.)

Now you can express your sartorial sensibilities in so many different fashionable options. Moms are encouraged to wear an outfit that they love (with the bride's approval, of course). Sleek evening gowns, trendy midis, maxi dresses and structured jumpsuits are all great options for the mother of the bride. Talk about spoiled for choices!

There’s no need to feel overwhelmed, as we have plenty of stunning options for you to choose from. Our mother of the bride or groom dresses are alluring, without taking attention away from the happy couple. You’ll look and feel your best throughout all the upcoming wedding festivities no matter which dress you choose. Keep reading our style guide for tips for the mother of the bride and groom, plus our top picks to help celebrate one of the biggest days in your life!

3 tips for the mother of the bride or groom

1. Let the bride be your guide!

If you take away only one tip, let it be this one: Follow the bride's cues about style, color, and degree of formality. The bride and groom set the tone for the wedding. That can mean everything from a casual country wedding complete with cowboy boots, or a formal black-tie affair. You're an important member of the wedding party and you'll want to look the part. So, ask your son or daughter for some guidelines and follow suit.

However, choosing the mother of the bride or groom dress should be a collaborative effort. The bride will likely have ideas and opinions on what her mom and mom-to-be should wear, but mom should get a say as well. Mother of the bride and groom attire should be comfortable and flattering — after all, it's a special day for moms too, and they’ll want to look and feel their best.

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2. Take color cues from the wedding party!

There's only one color not to wear: white! Avoid anything white, ivory or hues of champagne. Though you deserve to look stunning, the bride should stand out as the star of the show.

It’s tradition that the mother of the bride or groom’s dress complement the wedding party's colors (though not necessarily match). Therefore, it's best to wait until the bride-to-be chooses the bridesmaid’s dresses to begin shopping. See if you can get a swatch of their fabric to take with you—it will be super helpful when searching for a harmonizing hue.

If your daughter or daughter-in-law forgoes the uniform bridesmaid dresses in favor of individual outfits in a similar shade, stick to one or the other. For instance, if she asks her attendants to wear black cocktail dresses, you might want to choose something in silver or gray. Or if her girls are going in cobalt blue, a navy dress would pair perfectly.

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3. Borrow from the venue, too!

It used to be that the mother’s dresses followed a kind of “uniform.” Today, almost anything goes! Just as long as it's appropriate for the event. Make sure you also take the weather and cultural or religious customs into account when choosing your outfit. Whatever kind of wedding it is, you can never go wrong if these three words come to mind: elegant, understated, and appropriate. 

Adriana (left) is wearing the Sasha raglan sleeve dress, available for purchase starting March 1, 2022. Leanna (right) is wearing the Elsa dress in white.

Our top picks for the mother of the bride or groom outfits

Whether you prefer floor-length, just below the knee, sleeveless or with sleeves, we have a dress style to suit your taste and personality. Check out some of our favorites below!

Every detail was carefully considered to create this feminine formal dress.

With a bodice made from scalloped navy sequin lace, Cynthia is feminine and eye-catching. Her deep V-neckline features a mesh illusion for chic coverage, while the wide empire waistband helps to accentuate your natural cursive.

Looking put together can happen in an instant when you wear this Elsa Capelet Dress.

An attached floral print capelet elevates the exquisitely soft A-Line stretch crepe scuba dress. Simple, refined and elegant details like the V-back of this floral midi dress make Elsa the loveliest choice for any special event. Just add dangling earrings and a clutch and you'll be ready in minutes!

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Our staple Lisa faux wrap dress, but in a floor length for those special occasions on your calendar.

Lisa’s scoop neck highlights your collarbone and the faux wrap detail at the waist creates definition and coverage of your mid-section for a classic, bodycon silhouette. With a slip on design, this navy faux wrap dress makes a formal dress look easy to wear and works for a variety of social occasions.

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Make all of your plans shimmer with this eye-catching Stevie dress!

Stevie’s stretch sequin fabric glides over the body and long chiffon sleeves provide subtle coverage. From cocktail hour to wedding receptions, Stevie is an iconic party dress that’ll have you feeling confident and glamorous all night long.

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The Sara design you love, a new silhouette you have to have!

Meet Sara 2.0 - the dress version of our classic Sara jumpsuit. A chiffon crossbody ruffle adds dimension and movement, taking the sophistication and chicness level up a notch. Don't miss the side slit for that extra touch of sexiness we all want.

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Named for its cascading front panels, Cassie is an ideal classic lace cocktail dress.

Cassie’s lace bodice with contrast lining also adds that elevated, fancy touch you’re looking for in a cocktail dress. Not only is this navy cocktail dress easy to slip on, but she’s also comfortable to move around in during your next event.

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Meet Gracie, a sequin lace dress that is classic, feminine, sparkly and cut to a sexy, yet comfortable knee length.

Gracie creates your most figure flattering silhouette without making you feel constricted so you’ll look absolutely stunning while feeling unbelievably comfortable. Wear this unique, sexy and eye-catching lace bodycon dress to feel comfortable & confident at your next important special occasion!

Cora is a dress you’ll wear to cocktail parties, weddings and less formal events this year.

Timeless yet modern, this sleeveless midi dress features an empire waist and an A-line skirt for a flattering and comfortable fit. When styling this mauve and navy midi dress, play off of the two-tones and incorporate a little shimmer into your look.

Terri is wearing the Sunny sequin lace dress.

At Connected Apparel, we have mother of the bride and mother of the groom dresses that will look, feel, and fit fabulously. Our mother of the bride dresses are available in a wide selection of styles, colors, and sizes, including petite and plus sizes up to 24W, to suit every mother's taste. And they’re all under $100!

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